The Soulmate Survey

Title graphic for a blog about what Americans think about the existence of soulmates.
Title graphic for a blog about what Americans think about the existence of soulmates.

Soulmates are often considered the holy grail of romantic relationships — a perfect match, the one person in the world who completes us. But do they actually exist?

We surveyed people across America to find out and asked them questions analyzing their beliefs and experiences in regard to meeting that special someone. Some of our questions included whether people think soulmates are real and if they believe they’ve met theirs, among others.

The findings shed light on the role soulmates play in modern romance and offer fascinating insights into the varied experiences of people across the country. Read on to uncover what we revealed about Americans’ collective search for that special someone.

Which States Believe in Soulmates?

U.S. map showing which states believe in the idea of soulmates the most and least.

It turns out that Utah is the most skeptical on the concept of soulmates, with only 38% of the population thinking they exist. Of those in Utah who have met their soulmate, they date an average of 6.6 others before locking it down. Across the nation, people say they date between three and 10 people before finding the one. Perhaps being on the higher end of this range leaves Utah natives feeling discouraged that they’ll never find their true soulmate.

On the other hand, Alabama believes in soulmates the most, with a whopping 80% of its population believing in the idea. Maybe it’s Alabama’s romantic Southern charm culture that puts a lot of importance on finding “the one” and believing in fate among its people.

Pennsylvania is also high in soulmate believers, with 70% of the population sharing the sentiment. Perhaps that’s due to the fact that they date an average of just three people before meeting their soulmate (making PA the state to find their soulmates quickest, according to our survey). Florida (3.5), Georgia (3.5), and New York (3.8) follow as the states that find their soulmates most quickly, all at under four partners.

On the opposite end, those in Washington State date an average of 10. There are a lot of factors that could contribute to this difference — Washington’s higher cost of living might lead people to focus more on their careers than on finding their soulmate, while Pennsylvania is the fifth-most populous state in the nation, which might make it easier for someone to find the love of their life. Alabama (7.6), Colorado (7.4), and Minnesota (7.3) follow Washington as the states that date the most before finding their soulmate, each averaging over seven partners.

Other Soulful Findings

Graphics with various insights about opinions Americans have about soulmates.

Did you know that over half of the population (55%) believes they have already met their soulmate? You read that right — most Americans believe their perfect match is waiting somewhere. It’s a reminder to keep your heart open to the possibility of love because you never know when you might meet that special someone who feels like they were made for you.

You might also be surprised to learn that of those who have already met their soulmate, 63% say they met them organically, in person. Sometimes the best things in life happen when you least expect them, so if striking out on dating apps has you feeling discouraged, don’t be too quick to dismiss the power of destiny.

On the flip side, out of the lovebirds who say they have met their soulmate, one in four did so using a dating app. If you’re skeptical about finding love online, it might be time to try it out — your soulmate might be a swipe away!

We found that the average person dates almost six people before meeting their soulmate. Similarly, those previously divorced say they dated 11 people before finding their soulmate — talk about putting your heart through the wringer. Despite a lot of heartbreak along the way, many insist that finally finding the person who makes your heart skip a beat makes it all worth it.

It might be hard to imagine, but one in five people in a relationship say they would leave their current partner if they discovered they are not their soulmate. We also found that 22.5% of people in a relationship and 15.4% of people married do not believe their current partner is their soulmate.

Finally, 8% of singles across America think they have already met their soulmate but are still single. That’s a pretty bold claim, but who are we to judge? Sometimes love hits you like a ton of bricks, and when you know, you know.

Closing Thoughts

Our survey has provided a glimpse into the beliefs and experiences of Americans when it comes to soulmates. We found that the concept of a soulmate is still very much alive and well in modern romance, with many people believing in their existence and actively searching for them.

Regardless of where you stand on the idea of soulmates, it’s clear that the search for that special someone remains a crucial aspect of many people’s lives. Whether you’re scrolling through dating apps or trying to meet the one organically, the journey to finding your soulmate can be both challenging and rewarding.

Love can come unexpectedly, and sometimes it takes dating a few people or even experiencing heartbreak before meeting the one who completes you. Still, for those who have found their soulmate, the feeling of knowing that you have met the one who was meant for you is unparalleled.

If you’re one of the lucky people out there who has found your soulmate, you’ll want to be ready with the perfect engagement ring to pop the question. At Shane Co., we have a wide selection of stunning engagement rings to fit every style and budget, from classic solitaires to unique halo designs. Shop our selection of fine jewelry today!


Our study aimed to analyze Americans’ beliefs and experiences regarding soulmates. We collected data from 2,111 survey respondents across the United States between March 1 and March 9, 2023. The survey included questions related to whether people believe in soulmates and if they believe they have already met theirs, among others.

The states of Alaska, Delaware, Hawaii, Montana, North Dakota, South Dakota, Vermont, and Wyoming were not included in the survey due to an insufficient number of respondents from those areas.

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Did I just read details about putting one’s heart through the wringer after dating 11 people?
Try 500.
Yea, those poor poor finding-love-number-twelve people, truly have my sympathies.

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